30 Things I Learned Before 30

30 Things I've Learned Before 30

30 is scary.

I feel like it's this age that you should have your ducks in a row by. 
Which I don't, by the way. 
But it's also the age literally everyone tells me I'll love the most. 

In thirty years SO MUCH has gone down. 
I feel like my life experience is way beyond thirty, a result of growing up too fast. But my heart is still 29.

To be honest I have looked forward to 30 for the throwdown, but not the actually turning 30 part. I imagined we'd have a huge bash with a DJ, margaritas, those big number balloons, and all the people. I was planing what I felt was necessary to prove my life was valid, important and celebrated. I saw friends having friendcations, huge bashes, intricately themed parties and surprises for their 30th. But when I dug deep, that's just not where I am at. And I shouldn't force myself to be for a good Insta pic or out of jealousy. Even if I am just now finding and building my tribe life is pretty sweet, even without the girls trip to Cabo.

So not that you're interested or anything but here's my insight on 30 things I've learned before 30!  (and if you don't feel like reading my list you can hit up the Podcast and listen to my #0 Things Things I've Learned Before 30 episode : https://apple.co/2M9wKDN)

  1. You're never too married to stop building on your marriage
  2. Without God at the center, your foundation isn't as sturdy
  3. Parenting Is a life of many seasons. And each season is different.
  4. You output what you input
  5. Taking care of your body isn't a strict pie chart but a loose balance of healthy choices, what feels good, and listening to your body
  6. Motherhood will give you all the feels, but you're never the only one. 
  7. Friends over boyfriends always
  8. If you feel like you should be doing something because that's what "moms do", "professionals do", "those women do"..stop and ask yourself what do YOU DO.
  9. Don't sweat the small stuff
  10. If it's not on the schedule it won't happen
  11. Your past made you who you are, but it doesn't control who you continue to become
  12. Really think about what your priorities are and execute your life accordingly
  13.  Never get to serious you forget how to be silly
  14. Date nights or bust
  15. Perfect...there's no such thing
  16. Take the time, you won't regret it
  17. Try new things, you might be surprised
  18. Things that are worth it, usually take hard work to get, keep, and maintain
  19. Be flexible
  20. Save your money
  21. Don't ever make others feel like less, to make yourself feel like more 
  22. Find a community
  23. Do the hard parenting now, even if it breaks your heart a little with each spankin
  24. Don't compare yourself to strangers on the internet
  25. Practice gratitude, it'll keep you in check
  26.  Love your dysfunctional family, it's the only one you've got
  27. Learn to forgive, holding resentment and anger only hurts yourself 
  28. You can't change how other people act, but you can control how you respond and how you let them effect you 
  29. Don't rely on other people, things, or reaching goals for fulfillment and happiness
  30. Don't be a collector of things, be a collector of memories.